For many couples, the holidays are a wonderful time to get engaged. Romantic lights, special events and sentimental traditions may make marriage seem like a dream come true. But some years down the road, those same holidays may be a time of reexamination. For couples who are struggling, the holiday season may be what divides them, rather than brings them together.
January, aka Divorce Month, brings an increase in divorce filings, although most divorces are finalized later in the calendar year.
Now that celebrating the new year is in your past, if you’re considering getting divorced you might understand how this increase in filings could be related to your:
- Wake-up call – The holidays are often full of joy and laughter. When you believe you want to make your relationship work, your nostalgic family activities can increase your desire to hold on to your marriage. But often, once the holidays end and you go back to your day-to-day life, you might have to come to terms with the fact that it just isn’t working.
- Agreement to keep the holidays special for your children – Children experience the wonder of the holidays in a way few adults can view the world. For many couples whose marriages are nearing the end, there exists a desire to stay together for the children, at least in order to not ruin the holidays for them.
- Resolve to do things differently this year – Many people make New Year’s resolutions. Though that often includes health-related goals or budgeting, sometimes self-evaluation leads to the choice of pursuing happiness, alone.
If you consider divorcing in the new year, it’s important to remember that you have options. At the same time, opening yourself up to vulnerability with your partner could be the start of restoring what you once had.